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The Little Things
Ways to Show a Mother's Love
By Mardie Caldwell, C.O.A.P.
I am an adoptive mother and an adoption facilitator. One of the things I notice most about new mothers and fathers is the love that grows from the first time they hold their child in their arms. The love a mother feels for her child is the same whether the child was grown in her own body or in her heart, as when a mother adopts a child.
My children are dear to me, and I find it hard to see them in pain. I feel like a mother hen watching over her baby chicks all the time. Children are resilient in some areas but always need to know they are loved, wanted and are priceless to us, at any age. Even when our children don't need us any longer to tie their shoestrings or to wipe their noses, they still need to know that we care. Often a child will not feel the impact of his mother's love until he becomes a parent himself or his mother is no longer living. Then the power of a lifetime of love the mother provided sets in.
To love and accept our children, even when they are driving us nuts and their behavior is horrid, is most challenging. But the mix of unconditional love and loving limits is the most important duty and obligation a mother can have. Hugs and kisses are special and a necessity. Love can be expressed in many other ways, too, including the discipline and responsibility we give our children. Eye contact and a simple touch on a shoulder or a love pat on the back mean so much and cost so little. Try today to think of ways you can show your children how much you love and value them.
Here are a few demonstrations of love I have found my children are fond of. You can adapt these suggestions according to the ages of your child:
- Outward expressions of affection for your spouse, such as holding hands and warm hugs, are good examples of love and security you can give your children.