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The pregnancy and miscarriage
July 19, 2006
Let's see if I can recap the PG and MC time...
July 10th – (Monday) 1st PG test, positive. I called my OB sister (S3) and SIL5.
July 11th – (Tuesday) 2nd test, faintly positive, not darker though. I called S1, Mom, SIL1 and S2.
July 13th – (Thursday) Stepdaughter (SD2) called screaming and yelling at DH that she didn't know I was pregnant until they ran into someone at the ball park. The someone wasn't just anyone but my brother (B1). She said that she and SD1 were upset that we didn't tell them. In fact, they didn't know we'd only known for two days and never gave DH a chance to explain. They ranted and verbally abused DH which really upset me. He was so upset and didn't even know why. We were very confused and didn't understand what was wrong. We had intended on telling the girls together that weekend or even that night but they couldn't make it for dinner. We didn't want to tell them over the phone or separate because then they'd think we'd play favorites. So, they said some pretty mean things to DH. SD2 yelled at her dad to admit he likes this family better and that he'd not proud of her etc. She was drunk – or so we heard after the fact. So, it was a nightmare.
I called both SDs shortly after both of their rampages and left messages on their phones knowing they wouldn't answer. I told them they were being immature and childish and that they needed to apologize to their dad for their behavior. Then they got all mad at me! They said I didn't have the right to do that – and "How dare I?" What? I can call and leave messages to anyone who hurts the ones I love. I have only once seen DH as upset as I saw him that night. That was due to his ex-wife years ago. So my real question is what right do these girls have to speak to their father the way they did and think it would be OK. So, I haven't spoken to either of them. In the phone messages I left I told them that I was sorry they found out since we wanted to surprise them but I have the right to tell my sisters (and SILs) before I call my husband's children. And besides that, we had only known 2 days, it's not like we'd known for a couple months – which they never listened long enough to know that. It was totally illogical and ridiculous.
DH called his mom and dad shortly after to tell them just in case they were to get mad. But, they didn't care and then MIL called back later to support DH and tell him they believe the girls were acting immaturely. She even said "if they didn't know yet then it was none of their business. " That's the way his parents are... " it's all on a need to know basis." We called (stepson ) SS and he didn't care. The girls turned this whole thing into a situation about them and it had nothing to do with being happy for us. It just didn't make any sense.
July 14th – (Friday) I decided to make it official after the whole fiasco so I went to the Army clinic and got the PG test done. Which in itself was not a good sign – in retrospect. I peed in the cup at the clinic and the nurse asked me to wait in an office next to the testing room. I could hear them complaining about the "new tests" they received and that perhaps they were a bad batch. Finally the nurse arrived after having done 3 tests (4th one still in the other room) And she said she had 1 positive and 2 negative. She said she's like to get the DR's approval for a blood test. I should've been 5 weeks along so the test should've come back darker than it did. By the time she returned the other two tests were faintly positive as was the 4th test she revealed that she had done. So, she congratulated me and gave me the number to call the OB clinic to set up my first appt. I called the clinic that afternoon and got my first appt set up for the 26th or something. I don't really remember.
July 17th – (Monday) Around 5 pm I got a massive headache and I don't get headaches often. Later in the evening I started to feel a bit crampy. Up to this point, I'd felt absolutely wonderful and I expected to feel like crap by now. No sore boobs or upset tummy or anything. I kind of expected my period at any moment. And after the deal with my SDs, I even told DH that I hoped to have a miscarriage so this whole pregnancy won't be tainted by the feelings of their sisters.
July 18th – (Tuesday) Slightly graphic... I had plans to go to Holiday World with a friend and her son. I woke up in full blown period and massive cramping. I knew what was happening and didn't change my plans. I put in a tampon and marched on. We actually had a good time at the fun park and even the water park. It was a hot day but we closed the park down. Earlier in the evening I went to the bathroom and pulled the plug and out came a blob and I knew that was it. In fact a wave of peace came over me. I felt better emotionally and physically. No more cramps. The worst part was that I will always remember that I flushed it down the toilet at Holiday World. And strangely enough, the last time I was at that park, dad died that day. So, I don't think Ron is excited about me going there again. However, each time I went, I knew what the day would bring beforehand – a death in the family.
July 19th – (Wednesday) I went to the OB clinic and got an ultrasound that confirmed a clean pass of the fetus. There was nothing left in my uterus for any concern. I had a blood test done which of course confirmed the whole thing and my HCG level was 7.6 and 5 is considered not pregnant. I looked on the bright side. I could now drink on my vacation.
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