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March 3, 2003
Turning to Advocare for Help
I am at my wits end with Chris. I swear to God, if someone handed me a prescription for meds to cure this problem, I would be AT the pharmacy this very minute getting it filled. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!
Today I picked up Chris and he told me that he was only on yellow card, which is only one discipline card from being GOOD all day!! YAY….or not??? Then he turns to me and shows me this shiny, red toy car in his hand. He says, “Look mom!! Someone gave me a car in class today!” He looks at me with a big, bright smile, and all red flags in my head go up. I probed him a little…..
Me: “Chris where did you get that car? Was it really given to you?”
Chris: “Yes, I told you mom. Someone gave it to me in class. It’s mine.”
Me: “Chris tell me who…otherwise I won’t believe you.” (I already did NOT believe him.)
Chris: “I can’t remember, mom….” He’s still making eye contact with me.
Me: “Chris you better tell me the truth right now!”
Chris, who drops all eye contact and with shoulders slumping, says: “I stole the toy car.”
OMG!!! I just about wanted to die, or melt into the floor, or scream, or maybe all three. Have you counted yet, how many times I have talked about him stealing? Well, maybe I only told you about the last time this happened. This is the third time he has done this in his class in the last two months. Last year, he was doing this EVERY DAY consecutively at the baby sitters house, for about 2 weeks. Unfortunately, I believed his stories at that time, because his teacher DID give them prizes in class. I just thought he was picking very girlie prizes. (Our babysitter had a 7 year old girl.) Ok, so back to today……I just wanted to scream. I had to literally count to 10, and mind you we were still standing in the school’s hallway. I needed time to calm down and I knew that the drive home would be just enough to allow me to figure out what kind of punishment I wanted to give him.
When we got home we had a talk. I asked Chris where he got the car, and he told me that he had taken it OFF the teacher’s desk without her knowing. (OMG! Even worse.) So, then we talk about what stealing is. I asked him to tell ME, and he said that it means you have taken something that does not belong to you. I talked to him about how God felt about theives, etc…..That wasn’t pretty either. I then asked him WHY he was stealing. He said that he didn’t like his toys anymore. Hmmmm….Ok, so I told him that he was getting a spanking, he was staying in his room for the rest of the night, and that I was taking ALL of his toys away for 2 days!!! He was heartbroken and I kept my cool. Good enough for me. So I cleaned up the rest of the stray toys, and stashed the toy boxes in my room.
After the rest of the disciplining, I desperately phoned my friend, who is a distributor for Advocare products (you can read more about those in my Recipes Today Diary.) I told her that I needed a supplement called “Spark” that I have heard parents talking about. It’s a supplement that helps with focus and has worked wonders with ADHD kids. I told her that I needed it NOW, TODAY, PRONTO, and that I will drive down to her house to get it (about 25 miles south of us) this VERY evening. It turns out that she has it in stock and is home tonight. (Thank GOD!) I will update when I find out how this stuff is working for Chris. I plan on trying it, starting it tomorrow.
Thanks for allowing me to vent. I really don’t know where to go from here. It’s just really frustrating.
Until next time,
Heather, Ben, & Chris
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