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Expert Q&A

	By Elizabeth Pantley Child Behavior Expert Better Beginnings, Inc.

Why does my child still wet the bed and what can I do about it?

Bedwetting has come out of the closet and is now recognized as a common childhood problem. Twenty percent of 5-year-olds and 10 percent of 6-year-olds routinely wet their beds. Up to seven million children in the U.S. ages 6 and over wet their beds at night. This behavior is purely a symptom of an immature bladder system, and for most children, the problem will disappear when they get a little older.

For younger kids:
If your child is 5 or younger the easy solution is to allow your child to wear disposable padded underwear to bed. These disposable pants are readily available and can be purchased where diapers are sold. Let your child put them on and off by himself, and tell him that when he's ready to wear underwear to bed to just let you know. The more low-key you are about this issue the easier it will be for your child to make the step to underwear. Many young children sleep very deeply and simply don't wake up to use the toilet. When your child is routinely dry in the morning you'll know that he's ready to sleep in underwear.

For the older kids:
If your child is over 5, the first step is to arrange for him to have a complete physical. Let the doctor know in advance what your concern is so that your child isn't embarrassed at the doctor's office. If there are any health problems your doctor can identify them and help solve the problem.

Make a plan:
Your child is most likely embarrassed by this situation and really wants to control it. Empathize with his feelings, and offer to put together a plan to solve the problem. Some ideas are to limit fluids after dinner, use the toilet twice immediately prior to going to bed, keeping a night light on to light a clear pathway to the bathroom, using a plastic mattress cover, keeping clean pajamas and a sleeping bag near the bed for accidents. Allow the child to take responsibility for the problem by showing him how to change the bedding and launder the wet sheets. During this time, you may want to "double-make" the bed. Put on a clean sheet, cover with a plastic mattress cover, and then put another clean sheet on top. If an accident occurs, your child can simply peel off the wet sheet and mattress cover and have a fresh sheet ready to sleep on.

Nighttime routine:
Try to eliminate liquids about two hours before bed, and have your child use the toilet twice before getting into bed. (Perhaps once, brush teeth and again.) Keep a night light on for a clear path to the bathroom and give your child permission to use the bathroom during the night if he needs to. Just the subconscious message may help.

Don't obsess about it:
Don't make bedwetting a primary issue of the family. Take steps to control it and eliminate it, but don't focus too much energy on it. Try to be patient. It will take time and maturity for your child to get this part of growing up under control, but it will happen.

Do some research:
Here are some great resourses for more information:
http://www.kidney.org/patients/bedwet.cfm
http://kidshealth.org/parent/general/sleep/enuresis.phpl